Swami ji’s Sandesh… ” ‘पराजय’ से घबराने के बजाय, उससे सीखो और दोबारा जीतने की कोशिश करो…”

Swami ji said …

“जीवन में हम हमेशा जीत तो नहीं सकते… पराजय का सामना हमें करना ही पड़ता है और आगे भी करना पड़ेगा…” Life runs only this way – as the scales of life cannot maintain a perfect balance at all times. They will tilt one way or another. And so it is with victory and defeat. One follows the other. Just like night follows day.

The most valiant warriors, greatest sportspersons, and renowned actors — who are cheered and spoken of with awe and admiration for their remarkable courage and valour ; for their record-breaking feats and acting prowess — one day, are ridiculed and mocked the very next day – when they fail to deliver as expected. That’s just the way the cookie crumbles — but is that how we too should behave ?
Crumble under the weight of being tagged a ‘loser’ – develop an inferiority complex ; begin to feel that we are incapable of achieving anything and make a desperate attempt to hide from others filled with a sense of shame ? And, also, derive sadistic pleasure in making others squirm in humiliation by ‘applauding’ their ‘defeat’ – by making snide remarks on their inability to pass the litmus test – ever. What will we gain by adopting an attitude in which we not only demean ourselves – but others also -” जब हम स्वयं पराजय का सामना करते हैं या जब कोई और पराजित होता है…”

We should not allow defeat and failure to push us off the edge, or , make us feel overwhelmed at the thought of being branded a ‘failure’. Paying heed to the inner voice that tries everything possible to make us feel small by mockingly reminding us — “Oh, you cannot be victorious! What is the point of trying, when you know you can’t win?”- will only ensure that we fade away and give up without trying again. And, is that what we really want within heart of hearts ? Who doesn’t feel the need to be recognised for his accomplishments by attaining them as quickly as possible?

“पराजित होने पर हम निराश हो जाते हैं … सोच में पड़ जाते हैं कि लोग हमारे बारे में क्या सोचेंगे…हम अपने आप को दूसरों के सामने लज्जित महसूस करते हैं…”Why is it that we think more about what others will think of us – instead of motivating ourselves to try again – sure that we will succeed ?”
“How will we face all those we know ?” – is a question paramount in our mind. All these senseless thoughts weigh heavily on our mind – the burden of which – unsettles us with dark thoughts of self – doubt and worthlessness.

We feel as though we are frozen ; caught off guard and are unable to chalk out a plan of action that might give us the strength to believe in ourselves ever again. We can and must try once again and will certainly be successful – should be our motto. We need to erase the words –
‘पराजय’ -‘defeat’ and ‘failure’ from our vocabulary ; and instead focus on the lesson learnt from failing – and put in determined effort to win ; be victorious – ” aur parajay ko kal ko aane wali jeet ka kaaran banaye…”