Dedicated to Swamiji Ajay Jain ji

Swami ji said…

Individuals with exceptional talent, outstanding skills in a particular field, brilliance in their chosen sport or art, and great accomplishments at a very young age – are all God-gifted. Those who are intelligent enough to ignite this dormant spark into a burning fire through their passion, determination, and single-minded devotion, at the right moment and at the opportune time- are indeed blessed and extremely fortunate.

‘ They’ are very few in number— perhaps only a handful among billions— whose pictures are splashed across newspapers and displayed on billboards. Worshipped by many and looked upon with awe by millions of fans, they have the ability to make us shout, cheer, or tear up unabashedly.

But why is it that a few extremely talented individuals — “अपने कौशल से, अपनी विशेष योग्यता के कारण, जिन से वे अपना नाम और अपनी पहचान बनाते हैं— कुछ समय बाद अहंकार, घमंड और अभिमान से भर जाते हैं? उनमें अपने हुनर का गुरूर क्यों आ जाता है? “

Why do they begin to develop an “attitude,” an arrogant demeanour, and behave in a superior, condescending manner- with those whom they consider “insignificant”? After earning accolades, name, and fame, is it their ego that makes them feel incomparable, unparalleled, and unique? Do they begin to believe that what has been achieved by them cannot be achieved by anyone else?

Do the lights of the cameras that follow them everywhere blind them to the reality that all the adulation coming their way today is only because of God’s Grace and His Will? One cannot deny that their perseverance and hard work have played a significant role in their success; but, again, if, He so wishes, He can take away everything in an instant.

Does our vanity make us erase the age-old proverb, “Pride comes before a fall,” from our memory? Do we forget that excessive pride has caused the downfall of many- many times over?

The spiritual seeker must always ask himself, “What do I possess that was not given to me?” We must ask ourselves this question again and again. Everything we have- has been given to us by God, and that includes any special gifts and abilities that we may possess. Talent is not self-created. It is only discovered. It is only harnessed. But ultimately, it is God’s gift to us.

The more one reflects on this, and the more one begins to believe it, the looser the grip of pride becomes. One realises that humility is not about denying the fact that one has special abilities, but, about being aware that those abilities are gifts bestowed by God and that one is truly fortunate to have received them.

The ancient stories are filled with such examples of great men who were led to their doom by pride. रावण— the most knowledgeable, the most devout, the most intelligent— was blinded by his ego to such an extent that he could not see that- ‘The राम’ against whom he was waging war- was Lord Vishnu Himself on Earth. He, who was Lord Shiva’s greatest ‘भक्त’, forgot to close his eyes to ‘माया’ and look into his heart- to see whether what he was doing was right or wrong. With the many boons that God had given him, he began to mistake himself for God.

Such is the folly in which many, even today, ultimately find themselves.

The answer to this lies in being the exact opposite of रावण— in being more like Lord Hanuman.

We must remember God in every action. When we succeed, we must praise Him with gratitude. When we fail, we must seek His guidance in setting us on the right path. We must detach ourselves from the results in all forms— good or bad— and pray only that God gives us the wisdom to act correctly. This will wash away all our ideas of “my greatness” and “my ability,” and make us focus on, and, realise the grandeur of God in the smallest of things that happen – with us and to us.

Swami ji said…

Life is nothing but a series of circumstances; of instances that we face, from birth to death. There is not one moment which is ever in our control. Everything that we go through and experience in this life, in this world, is pre-destined. It is all a result of our past actions. The good, the bad, the ugly—and everything in between.

And, while most of us seem to know this, how many of us truly believe this? How many of us are acutely aware of this in our thoughts? Wouldn’t our reaction to any situation or circumstance be very different- if we had truly embedded this belief within ourselves?

If something good happens, we rejoice; if something bad happens, we become sad. Our mind during such moments is akin to a log of wood tossed in the seas—simply at the mercy of the crests and troughs of the sea, which seem much like the ups and downs of life.

When the going gets tough, we forget everything and look for someone to blame. And when the times are good, we look for ways to attribute that to ourselves. But, that is not the characteristic of one who is in control of himself. That is not the hallmark of one whose action is measured and thought out.

All our actions, whether planned or not, are ultimately a reaction to life around us. From the grand gestures to the smallest of acts. Be it our everyday routine or some special activity we do—everything is a response to life itself. And that is all that is in our control.

Some of us go through trials and tribulations in life- which are harsh, unforgettable. And many times, we believe that they, in turn, have made us harsh in our behaviour. Yet, there are others who go through worse and still come across as the kindest souls one could come across.

One student fails an exam and gives up on academics forever. Another digs deeper and decides to retake his exams, emerging as a much better student. Then there are some among us on whom fortune smiles, making us wealthy beyond measure. But what does that wealth do to us? Some become proud and arrogant, displaying the worst within them. Yet others become even more humble, more sacrificing, and ever more grateful. Same circumstances, yet different reactions. None of these examples are new to us. Yet, what do we learn from them?

The spiritual practitioner must strive to control his actions- unaffected and untouched by all that is happening around him. Irrespective of the circumstance- what truly matters- is the way he behaves and reacts to them.

Shri Ram’s temperament and nature did not change- while he was in exile- in the forest. His thoughts and actions were just as noble and grounded- as they had been while he was a prince. As a king, he maintained the simplicity and humility of a sage. The forests, the crowns, and the wars did not make Him deviate from His ‘principles’. He maintained His composure, His pursuit of truth and fairness, and His practice of “dharma”- throughout his life – indifferent to the contrasting circumstances that were faced by Him.

Similarly, the spiritual seeker must strive to be measured, composed, and strong in thought and action- always- no matter what life presents him with. He must be observant of his emotions, his thoughts and actions- and not let the challenges that will most certainly be faced by him while on the spiritual path- doubt himself, waver and move away from the Right path.

Swami ji said …

All of us have a common dream: to have a dream house of our own one day. It is not uncommon to hear people around us express this wish with longing and, at the same time, with a nervous hope that God will hear their appeal: “बस, एक अपना घर चाहिए…” “I will be the happiest- the day I have a house of my own…” “I am saving every penny to buy a house…”And, once the house is finally bought— after much financial planning, loans, and, at times, even after parting with precious assets to which deep emotions are attached— a ‘ गृह-प्रवेश पूजा’; a house-warming get-together is held to celebrate this milestone- in the life of an individual, a family, or a couple. During those auspicious moments, a prayer is on everyone’s lips, requesting God to bring peace, positivity, prosperity, good health, and harmony into the newly acquired house-“घर में, परिवार में प्रेम और एकता बनी रहे…” is what everyone asks for. This prayer beautifully sums up the sanctity and emotion of that cherished moment.

But, unfortunately, why is it that, as time passes- the genuine love, affection, and unity- very often begin to erode? Why do these emotions lose their significance and give way to friction, fractured relationships, and a lack of unity among family members?
How much time do we, at times, waste in allowing the devious mind to dance to discordant notes that are aimed at creating disunity within the family?

All of us know that a great deal of labour goes into constructing a house. It begins with clay, soil, and other materials being moulded into bricks. These bricks are then arranged, joined, and plastered to form walls. It is these solid and strengthened walls that enable a house to take proper shape.

All these inanimate, “lifeless” objects work in harmony, silently supporting one another — a shining example of the truth that “united we stand.”

And this is the lesson that should remain in our minds forever- once we move into the house: Come what may, “we” — each one of us— will stand by every member of our family through thick and thin. We will remain ever ready to support one another and will not allow any external factor to disunite us.

Brick by brick, our life is made. We must always remember that the solid foundation of sound principles and good character on which we stand today- is due, in no small measure, to the immense contribution of our family. And that- discord, disunity, constant verbal conflicts, and unending differences of opinion with our loved ones- can create cracks which, if, allowed to develop- may never be repaired.

The ‘ego’ often does not allow us to accept defeat in the verbal duels that we constantly wage with others – creating a negative environment in the house. It is, therefore, important to think of ways to bridge the gaps- that begin to emerge faster – than our attempts to seal them.

As spiritual seekers, we must understand that familial disharmony is a sign- that the mind has already created foes out of one’s own people. A spiritual seeker must remember that one’s family is just as human as anyone else, and, is therefore, bound to err and make mistakes.
Their mistakes, their words, and their actions are not to be held on to forever. The same principles of forgiveness, understanding, and unconditional love that we seek to apply to the world- must also be applied to them. Yes, angry words and regretful actions by family members can hurt more deeply, but, they are just as deserving of forgiveness and love as anyone else.

It is important, therefore, that we should always try to maintain an environment in which we use loving words and kind gestures, centred around honesty, while interacting with family members. Such an environment is conducive to developing mutual respect, fostering genuine interest in one another’s well-being, and making the family a tight-knit unit which, instead of challenging itself from within, faces all difficulties together- with strength and unity.

The epic- ‘महाभारत’ – is a profound teaching on this very truth — how nurturing feelings of hatred, injustice, and revenge can turn even brothers into enemies. And, even though God, in the form of Lord Krishna, was present among them, the Kauravas and the Pandavas were unable to reconcile and overcome their differences. Instead, they spilled each other’s blood.

This is a powerful lesson on how allowing ‘ego’ and ‘pride’ to go unchecked in family matters can lead to utter destruction and chaos. We may not have God ‘physically’ present among us, today, in the way Lord Krishna was present ‘then’, and, thus, it is incumbent upon us- to preserve the pillars on which the family stands.

Swami ji said…

Deep within us is the desire to be known, to be recognised, to be famous, and to be applauded. And, we all know that it is no mean feat- for those few- among the teeming billions- who have managed to reach the summit after painstaking perseverance- in the field of their choice. These “famous faces” are limited and few. Since it is not really possible for each one of us to taste success at a national or global level, we try, in our own humble way, to earn some recognition in the small world around us. Thus, more often than not, even before actually performing a good deed, we announce to anyone within earshot- about the great act that we are about to do, give shape to — if not overtly- then, certainly by way of a hint.

If we are lucky enough to do something good, nice- and even if, we ourselves do not go about blowing our own trumpet- we often secretly wish that someone else would do so for us. We hope that our friends or family members will make a comment about our good deed in front of others, highlighting our goodness, kindness. Even if we do not make our silent desire evident through our actions- in our thoughts, we are always hungry for attention and praise.

This is not something inherently evil, and it is certainly not something to be ashamed of. But, it is something of which we must always remain aware and try our best to curtail.

Those on the spiritual path should be able to acknowledge this craving for approval and recognition in one’s ego; as once we are on the path to God, we cannot afford to let ourselves be guided by the call of fame. We must ensure that our intention is always to do the right thing; to do our duty and not earn name and fame; that good ‘karma’ is performed for the sake of good ‘karma’ itself, and nothing more; and that spiritual practice is a means to seek God alone, and, not a means to gain appreciation for being spiritually inclined.

This hunger for acknowledgement, even a little, is always present in us. And, we must be wary of it and how it affects our thoughts, words and actions in the smallest of ways. The best way to achieve this is to always ask ourselves– “Are we doing something- keeping in mind how the world will see us, or, are we doing it because morally it is the right thing to do?” Because, even doing the ‘right thing’ needs to be done free from the pressure of an audience. These subtle differences can make a world of a difference in how we perform our ‘karma’. And it is important that we are always vigilant and aware of that.

There is no point in earning glory and acclaim, if, they come at the expense of a clear conscience. A heart free of guilt and a mind free of tension are priceless compared to a renowned name and fame. We must ensure that the latter never comes at the cost of the former.

To act properly, to sacrifice for others, to serve others, to assist others and to give to others— none of these warrant any self-praise or congratulations from others. These are our duties, and, there is no greatness in performing one’s duties. It is but the bare minimum. And, if, after doing any of these, we find ourselves in a self-congratulatory mood – then it means that we have allowed our ‘ego’ to take over us completely, and, that we do not see ourselves as equal to God’s other children, but, rather above them.

Meditation and self-reflection are essential for conditioning the mind- to not fall prey to such misplaced notions of self-worth while doing anything worthwhile.
Did Lord Hanuman consider Himself to be greater than Lord Ram- after doing something that Lord Ram Himself could not do- by using His skill to ‘jump’ across to Lanka and back? Did He pat Himself on the back and look for some commendation from Shri Ram for bringing the Sanjeevani herbs for Lord Lakshman? No, not at all! He attributed His ability to do anything to Shri Ram’s Grace on Him.

Thus, the next time we are fortunate enough to do- ” नेक, अच्छा, पवित्र कार्य…” or succeed in an honest, helpful endeavour- we must remember to direct all our happiness- not towards our ego, but, rather towards the Lord and thank Him for making us worthy of such noble actions.

Swami ji said…

” What will happen tomorrow?” ” What will happen a week from now?” “What will happen a year from now ?” “How will it affect me if that happens?” “Should I be concerned?” “What can I do to safeguard myself?” “Maybe it will be best only if this happens.” “Perhaps I should make sure that this happens.”
Each one of us, at some time or another, is plagued by such thoughts — a feeling of helplessness against uncertainty, followed by a desperation to somehow control the various outcomes of life.

That is the struggle we all go through- most of the time. If we are not focused on the present – the mind often wanders into the future, trying to ‘ensure’ that things turn out exactly the way it deems fit.

In such a state, the mind is restless, fatigued, and filled with fleeting thoughts. It sees a million possibilities, and is frightened by the fact that it can never zero in on one. There is no doubt that one must try to foresee what the future might hold, or how something may unfold, and take action accordingly. That is a wise and practical way to live a successful life.

But, to be obsessed with knowing and controlling everything beforehand — that is to live in hell. Because life was never meant to be placed in man’s hands in its entirety.
His effort? Yes.
His intention? Yes.
His actions? Yes.
But not the outcomes of his life. That was never meant to be in his control. And yet, man cannot seem to accept this- and finds it difficult to understand- that it is only the acceptance of this simple fact of life- that can make a marked difference in the way he perceives life and lives it. We cannot control every outcome. We can only choose how we respond to it.

Don’t the leaves and flowers sway and dance in strong, stormy winds- although the leaves know that they will break from the branches and fall; and the flowers too know that their petals will be torn apart from them and scatter- they still accept all that is happening with them- as they know that they have no control over the climate and weather? Just as a tree bends during a storm instead of resisting it with pride- we too must learn to accept the way our life unfolds- without complaining.
We must not resist all that is happening to us, with us- endlessly. We must learn to flow with it- with gratitude and humility- thankful to be alive. Panicking and over- thinking about any undesirable development in our life- will not take away the problem- rather it will lead to further complications- that would only add to our burden.

The spiritual seeker must understand this deeply. The shock and surprises of today and tomorrow- are not to be frowned upon and scowled at. They are not always roadblocks. Many times, they are signposts, quietly telling us which way to walk in the journey of life. One must learn to observe them carefully, and, be wise enough to understand their importance.

The uncertainty of life may seem cruel, but, to be honest- it is not. It is a reminder that surrender to God is supreme. No amount of intellect, no amount of effort, no amount of planning, and, no amount of hard work can place our entire fate under our control.
What is decided by Him must be accepted.
What comes must be faced. What goes must be released. And what remains in our hands- must be attended to with sincerity, patience, faith and with a clear understanding that – ” जीवन की हर परिस्थिति को हम नियंत्रित नहीं कर सकते हैं…हर स्थिति पर हम काबू नहीं पा सकते हैं…”