Dedicated to Swamiji Ajay Jain ji

Swami ji said…

The cycle of ‘karma’ cannot be ignored or avoided. The circumstances and conditions we find ourselves in – good , or , not so good – is because of the choices that we had made in the past. The decisions that we took in the earlier years of our life reflect our mindset of that time period – the follow up process of which prove to be either constructive or destructive for us. What we need to understand and accept is that – whatever we are or wherever we have reached in life today – is a reflection of the ‘direction’ that we decided to head in during our younger days. While for some ‘today’ is great, for some it is quite the opposite – all because of the direction they decided to set sail on long ago.

But, in the midst of all this, do we at any point question ourselves – hold ourselves accountable for the ‘state’ in which we find ourselves… ‘जो ‘दिशा’ हमने स्वयं अपने आप की करी है… क्या उसके लिए हम स्वयं जिम्मेदारी लेते हैं ?” When things go bad for us or take an ugly turn – we more than happily – pass on the buck to everything possible under the Sun. ‘हम ग्रहों की दशा को हमारे हालात के लिए, हमारी दशा के लिए जिम्मेदार ठहराते हैं…’ At times, we
hold our parents, friends , circumstances – everything else – but ourselves responsible for the dismal state in which we find ourselves. We do this because it suits us. We fail to recall the number of times we slipped – the innumerable times we were unable to resist temptation and ended up indulging in wrong and sinful activities – resulting in the messy situation that we now find ourselves in.

Even now – the direction we are heading in dictates our future – in this life and even the next. Thus, we must always be cautious and wise in taking the smallest of decisions that shape our life.This, however, can only be done if we have the foresight and guidance to see where our path is taking us. Those who keep God in their heart find this the easiest to follow. Even though they cannot see where they will end up, just the ‘nature’ – the goodness or peril – in the direction they decide to take – is something they develop an intuition for – as God is guiding them. Thus, those who regularly reflect and meditate on themselves become acutely aware of where they are headed in life and what they must do if they need to change direction. They are able to observe and glean from the world around them how ‘karma’ seems to work and thus become very careful of what they do. Such is the manifestation of God’s guidance in the spiritual practitioner’s life.

On the other hand, those who are trapped in the illusion of this world, are unable to tell which paths, which directions or what actions are beneficial for them. Enslaved to their physical senses, they are unable to see or sense any of the long term repercussions of their actions done today.

In life we must strive to be guided by honesty and righteousness. A sense of duty and humility is what directed Shri Ram from His Kingdom to the Forest – only so that he would become a King of the Ages – one who would be remembered and worshipped forever. On the other hand, insatiable desire and ambition made the demon king, Ravan – head from the Forest to the Golden kingdom of Lanka, which he coveted – only to see that very kingdom burn – in the last days of his life – as he paid for his sin, of kidnapping Sita Ma, at the hands of Lord Ram. Such is the destiny that awaits us – is in store for us – depending on the direction we take.

Swami ji said…

Life can never be easy. There are bound to be problems, difficulties and obstacles. Failure is inevitable. Successes will be far and few. The so called ‘happiness’ derived from the material world will be fleeting. Such is the nature of the illsuionary world we live in.

In all this, it is only faith – faith in God and ourselves – that can keep us moving forward with a smile on our faces. Despite where we are in life, the conditions in which we live – there are always some difficulties that we face. These can be on the personal or the professional front. When we emerge out of one difficulty – another challenge will most certainly look us in the face shortly.This is bound to take a toll on the spirit and make the mind weary. Yet, it is here that faith can help us. Belief in our dreams, belief that God is very much there looking out for us – is what can make us rise again and take our challenges head on.

But having faith in God is easier said than done – even for the spiritual practitioner. In the fight against despair and dark thoughts, faith is the weapon that must be wielded to tame the restless and doubt filled mind. But just like a sword must be sharpened from time to time, faith in God, too, needs to be reinstated and restored by us, at the earliest. It must be nurtured and developed; filled in the reservoirs of the mind like rivers fill a dam.

The way to do this is through rigorous, regular reflection – to realise how God works His miracles around us. We must be thankful to God for every opportunity He presents us with. Even in the smallest of successes, we must realise and be grateful for all the things that He arranges to fall in place for us at the right time. We must
acknowledge that despite our best efforts, there are a hundred things beyond our control which could go wrong, but, it is by God’s grace that they don’t. It is when we make ourselves humble and subdue the ego – that we realise the magnanmity that God has for us. It is then that we truly begin to ‘believe’ that God is guiding us and looking out for us; and that belief is what turns to faith in times of uncertainty. Despite swimming in the unknown, we simply ‘know’ that God will ensure we reach the safety of the distant shores, no matter how treacherous the seas could be.

Faith in God, faith in Guru is exhilarating and liberating. As long as our actions are borne of no ill will, we will not be scared of the results and will be confident that nothing bad will truly come off them. We will not be plagued by uncertainity, but , will look forward to the journey and wonders that God has in store for us. Even when facing our difficulties alone, we will not feel abandoned and lonely – such is the power of faith and belief in God. His divine plan for us – known only to Him – is the best for us.

Swami ji said…

Who doesn’t like to be praised ? Words of praise and appreciation are always music to the ears. In the days of old, kings and queens loved to hear poems and songs sung in their praise. Today, people crave attention and appreciative words lauding them on social media.The idea that one is admired and appreciated gives anyone a huge boost of confidence. It is thus, but, natural to look kindly upon anyone who praises us. We feel that they must think well of us and must be fond of us.

‘ हम मे से ऐसा कौन है जो अपनी तारीफ सुनना पसंद नही करता ?’ Nothing sounds sweeter than congratulatory and complimentary words commending us on our innovations , success and accomplishments. The frisson of happiness that courses through our being on being lauded and applauded ; on hearing us being praised, should not make us oblivious to the stark difference between – praise and flattery.

But, it is when we begin to confuse flattery with praise that we walk on a perilous path of self-destruction. The ego always lets us believe that we are perfect; so hearing words describing our greatness and goodness also validates our ego in its false beliefs. It is thus crucial for us to be self aware and not be swayed by adulation and applause given to us.

If ever, we reach a point in time, when on getting accustomed to hearing words praising us – we fail to distinguish between those … ‘जो हमारी ‘तारीफ’ करते हैं …और जो हमारी ‘चमचागिरी’ या ‘खुशामद’ करते हैं … we , must , during such times, remember and remind ourselves – ‘तारीफ़’ इन्सान के ‘काम’ की होती है, परन्तु चमचागिरी या ‘ख़ुशामद’
होती है उस इन्सान की जो ‘हमारे काम’ आ सकता है।’ Flatterers should have no place in our lives and should always be kept at an arm’s distance…’ऐसे लोगों से दूरी बनाए रखो…’ Will we know our worth only on hearing others glorify us in honeyed, ingratiating tones? Don’t we realise that those who flatter us – fool us, make the most of the ‘weakness’ in us – for their vested interests. A clear signal should be conveyed to flatterrers – stating sternly – ‘ Flattery will get them nowhere ! ‘

A self-aware individual is aware of his own strengths and weaknesses. He does not need to be told what he is good at and what he needs to improve on – but a person who is solely reliant on others for understanding himself – is at peril of being misled and taken advantage of.

Unfortunately, praise, which should be used only for genuinely appreciating others, is often used as currency for gaining favour with others. Ill – intentioned people often prey upon other’s weakness of low self-belief or of an inflated ego by speaking false words of reverence and adoration. Such people try to gain others’ confidence and trust, and then hope to control them and puppeteer them for their own ambitions and advantage.

We must thus always be on guard, and , not be affected by acclaim and approval. We must be humble in our success and not be carried away by words of flattery. By maintaining such a dememanour it becomes clear to all that we are highly self-assured and their sugar coated words will get them nowhere.

But all praise is not ill – intended. Even our loved one’s praise and admire us for who we are, and , yet it is this praise that quite often can be most harmful for us. For many a times, it is our family and close ones who are unable to see any wrong in us and place us on a pedestal. Out of love for us they only speak of our goodness and in turn lead us to believe that we are just as great as they see us. Yet, this is not their fault but our own. It is we who must be self-critical enough to see this and simply acknowledge their love for us.

Regular self-reflection and meditation make us acutely aware of who we are. We have a clear understanding of who we are and are thus unaffected by adulation and admiration.

Swami ji said …

“Time flies by and quite a many of us have been fortunate enough to have seen days and months ; years and decades pass by – each year leaving behind its indelible imprint on us, embedded for ever in our memory , and , all that is needed – is an instant to recall – what a particular year had brought to us , taught us. Lady luck could have favoured us greatly during a certain time period, giving us many a reason to smile – and, in contrast – unforgettable grief laden, tearful close encounters with unexpected, unfavourable developments like disease and death could have loomed large over a few years of our life.

But, then, this is the unique , mysterious element of time! Its colour and nature changes as swiftly as the manner in which it flies off the calendar. One quality that none of us can take away from each new day that we are lucky enough to see – is the ray of hope , positivity and optimism that it holds for us…giving us an opportunity to achieve all that our heart is set on…and in case the day closes on a dissatisfactory note … the thought of a new day – a new tomorrow filled with possibilities… fills us with hope once again.

And, staying true to the nature of closure – that ‘days’ and ‘time’ maintain on a daily , monthly or yearly basis…it is time once again to draw the curtains on yet another year. A year gone by, much like many years of the past, that must have brought in its fair share of smiles and tears; ups and downs; profit and loss; accomplishments and failures.The distinctive developments of the past year – pale in comparison – to the promise of new hopes, new aspirations, fresh resolutions and new beginnings that the onset of a new year brings with it. It is as though we pin all our hopes, including the long lost ones – on the incoming year and promise ourself that we will outclass and excel ‘ourselves’ in every possible way in the New Year…and we begin to add impetus , with great gusto , to the new resolutions in our mind as we long to see them bear fruit.

And to a certain extent … why not? Because that is what a New Year is all about…when we are enthused to turn things around for ourselves in the coming year; determined to learn from the experience of our past mistakes; to transform past disappointments into future triumphs. All this sounds good when said aloud and looks good on paper but a final shape…’ नए साल की उम्मीद और कोशिशों को रूप देने की क्षमता हम पर निर्भर करती हैं…’

The onus of not letting down the shine and sparkle of the resolutions and promises made in the frenzy of the dawn of a New Year rests completely on us…as once we promise to start afresh – we must stay focussed, fiercely determined and inspired to stay on course – so that on meeting our target – we can turn back and say victoriously … ‘ I did it !’ Belief , faith in ourselves , in our capabilities , in our resolve , in not hunting for lame excuses to give up at the first signs of fatigue – can act as milestones, as these alone can make us go from strength to strength , year after year. Furthermore our self belief and faith should be further strengthened in attaining the unattainable, when a saccha ‘sant ‘, a self realised ‘guru’, says with confidence and sincerity … ‘Sab achcha hoga…Main har pal tumhaare saath hoon… Tum chinta kyun karte ho ? ‘

Swami ji said …

Our fascination and obsession with everything expensive and exclusive that our eyes rest on – is clearly visible – as our talks and thoughts are dominated by ways and means of acquiring and possessing them. The more valuable and bankable our assets turn out to be and the weightier our bank statements – greater seems to be our sense of contentment and happiness then. We move around complacently like a Cheshire cat , twirl our mustaches and rub our hands in glee on acquiring the most expensive clothes, fancy cars and luxurious
condominiums. Any expensive item has to barely make its entry in the market – and we make a beeline towards it. ‘ I simply have to own this ‘ – we promise ourselves. The adrenaline rush that we experience while being surrounded by top brands – makes us drift away from
‘reality’ – which tries to remind us time and time again – to value the present moment… हमारा ‘वर्तमान’ – as ‘it’ alone is most expensive and valuable. No amount of money, power or penance can buy back our present time. We thus need to make our present relevant, meaningful and exemplary – without reflecting too much on the past and getting knotted up about the future.

‘ जीवन की चमक धमक मे हम यह भूल गए हैं कि, जीवन की सबसे महँगी चीज़ हमारा वर्तमान है …जो एक बार चला जाता है तो फिर सारे जग की संपत्ति भी उसे खरीद नहीं सकती है।’

The choice is ours – to either understand the immense value of every second that we are fortunate enough to breathe and witness – हमारे वर्तमान मे – by drawing a balance between ‘duties’ and ‘enjoyment’ and do so with equal joy – all the while surrendering to God’s will – or
waste away the precious seconds only in ‘sense’ gratification and pleasure – all this while the needles of the clock tick away unsparingly ; with frightful unbroken
regularity – leaving us to live in regret and repentance for the remaining days of our life – for wasting a life that could have been lived well.

The ‘time’ which truly belongs to us is the present time – now – for the better or worse. Unceasing tears and tension for ‘tomorrow’ ; the next day or the days ahead , which honestly are not guaranteed to us – but , of which strangely, we are very certain will most definitely be seen by us – in many ways take away the joy of the present moment. Although we live in the present time – we seem to constantly plan only for our future. Wouldn’t this style of functioning affect us in the present time ? Burn us out early ; tire us ; overload us and make us unhealthy in the present time ?

Quite a many of us show no hesitation in postponing our spiritual journey for a later day and ‘age’ – as we are petrified of the do’s and dont’s that this journey might entail. Why should we not begin to walk the path of self – discovery immediately and experience personally the wondrous beauty of spirituality , gain proximity to God and ‘Guru’? We create our own destiny every day we live – and thus live each day as if it were our last – to be better than we were the previous day ; have the courage to acknowledge our imperfections and work on them in the ‘present’ time on a regular basis – be aware of every deed, thought and action of ours, as we are accountable for our ‘karma’ and
brick by brick lay the foundation of a ‘nek ‘वर्तमान’ – as it is the ‘present’ which should matter the most to us at any given time.