Day: March 1, 2025

Swami ji said…

” हम बहुत जल्दी दूसरों पर संदेह करते हैं …” ” हम सब पर विश्वास नहीं कर पाते हैं
…” “हमें लोगों पर भरोसा करने में काफी समय लगता है…”Why? Why do we find it so difficult to trust others? Why do we always suspect and doubt the motives of others ? Man today places no trust in his own brother. It is very hard for him to believe that there is not some self-serving agenda in everyone else’s heart – which could turn out to be perilous for him.

We could, of course, quite simply defend ourselves for our lack of trust in others – by citing the prevailing scenario around us – and we would, maybe, not be completely wrong in assuming that no one seems to be trustworthy any more. But it is not just the ‘other’ who is at fault for this. Our own desires, our ambitions of worldly success make us not just ultra-competitive, but, also, insecure and threatened.And, thus, we find ourselves just trusting ourselves and nearly no one else.

Since we now prioritize status, wealth and property over and above everything else – faith, belief and trust have skittled away like nine pins – making us suspicious of each other’s doings. This ‘deficit’ of ‘trust’ – be it among family members, friends, or even spouses – is highly unfortunate and saddening.

And, because of the ‘mistrust’ – we feel that certain issues are best kept ‘safe’ – away from the keen, prying eyes of ‘others’. ‘Good news’ is kept hidden.
‘Happiness’ is shared only with a select few. There is constant fear of someone’s ‘evil eye’ or ‘बुरी नज़र’ causing unnecessary problems for us.

Could there be anything more shameful than what we witness nearly all around us today ? Every one is scared or worried – “Am I doing the right thing by leaving everything in his name?” ” What if he doesn’t take care of me in my old age ?“ ” कोई और मेरा हिस्सा नहीं लेगा ना?” Why can’t we change our thought process by first questioning ourselves as to what is this ‘share’ that we are always thinking about ? And, if and when, we do think on such lines – isn’t it clear that we are unable to ‘trust’ our ‘own’ kith and kin?

Well, this weak aspect of our nature – of not trusting others could be understood – if ‘it’ was only limited to other mortals like us. But, don’t we cross a sacred line when we begin to mistrust God ? When we lose faith in His plans for us; lose faith in His Supreme ‘will’ and even question His ‘safe keeping’ ability – when disconcerting developments in our life make us feel insecure and we don’t feel safe. We feel that although ‘He’ is supposed to be our ‘protector’, He is unable to ‘protect’ us from the catastrophes and mishaps that erupt in our lives; and we no longer feel confident in His ability to rescue us from the darkness of the deep pits into which our jealousy and anger might make us fall. Have we reached a stage when we no longer repose the same conviction , certainty that we had in Him in the past that – ” ‘ईश्वर’ हमारी डूबती हुई नैय्या को बचाएंगे…” as we feel that, now, we have been left to flounder on our own, far too many times, and, our pleas for help have gone unheard. Doesn’t it appear that rather than God testing us – it is we who put Him to the test – again and again. And, our expectations from Him are so high that we expect Him to wish away the tiniest probability of any adversity crossing our path – and we expect Him to do all this for us – with us still doubting Him , unsure whether we can pin our hopes on Him ; trust Him that He will – most certainly and definitely come to our aid.

Infact, we are so full of fear of losing our material and worldly belongings, that we refuse to even consider that there might be some good in the so called ‘hardships’ that God places us in at times. So blinded are we by our ‘logic’ – that we wonder what good can there be in any difficulty that is faced by us! If we, cannot ‘see’ any ‘good’ in a situation – we abandon any belief and hope – that God actually has something fruitful planned for us.

How beautiful can life be when we make it a habit to ‘thank’ God – for keeping us alive in the present moment ; for every little comfort that He has provided us with ; for keeping us disease free and joyful ? But, apart from thanking God for blessing us with a smooth life – it becomes all the more important for us to trust God when without any warning – our lives become difficult and we are faced with challenging times – and we ‘believe’ that this demanding time period shall also pass and we will emerge stonger on realising that it was He who had given us the strength to overcome the obstacles valiantly. When, once in a while, some things go wrong – we must take a moment to be thankful for the many things that have gone right – with His Grace.

For the spiritual seeker, ‘faith’ in His Maker is of utmost importance – as it is the foundation on which his spiritual development is based – which he must ensure remains deep-rooted and firm. He has to believe, through and through, that ‘His’ plan alone – is the best for him. The spiritual seeker does not need to be in a hurry to see light at the end of the tunnel as it is his faith, his belief in God and ‘Guru’ that lights the way – as he takes one step at a time – leading him to ‘His’ divine light.