Swamiji said…
” God knew that man could not survive without relationships and emotional attachments ; and thus ‘He’ gave him, both, in abundance and, alongwith these cherished affinities, ‘He’ also gave him a bag of expectations and needs to be filled by all those who came within his close knit fraternity of loved ones.”
“Most relationships that we live through, experience and develop, over our lifetime, appear to be ‘transactional’ in nature. They have a ‘give’ and ‘take’ connection. Parents,too, raise children so that their bloodline lives on; continues after them.They do expect their progeny to take care of them during old age – a reciprocity for all the love and care that they had provided to them from the moment of their birth. Spouses provide each other with emotional, physical and financial support. Even pets expect food and shelter from their master, in return, for the love and loyalty that they bear for him.Thus, relationships and expectations go hand in hand; each entwined with the other, suffused with hope and assurance, that each will not let the other down, even when the shades of dawn and dusk change with age and time.”
” Out of all such relationships, it is only a ‘saccha sant’s relationship with his devotees that is not based on a two-way transaction. ‘Ek ‘saccha guru’ hamesha apne ‘bhakt’ ke haath ko pakad kar rahega; bina kisi apeksha ke ; parantu, jab ek bhakt apne ‘guru’ ka haath pakad ta hai, tab uss mein apne ‘guru’ se thodi bohot apeksha toh hoti hi hai !’ which is understandable. In all honesty we need to accept the fact, that since we are mired in materialism, we do have certain expectations from the ‘Guru’.”
“The nature of the vagrant desires that grow within us could vary, but since a ‘Guru’ derives happiness from our happiness, He continues to ‘give’ us magnanimously; be it materialistic pleasures, academic brilliance, professional promotions; but He is happiest when He gives ‘adhyatmik gyaan’ to those who yearn to attain ‘self – realisation’.”
” An ‘adhyatmik guru’ is enlightened; is self-sufficient. He does not look for any materialistic profits or gains while blessing His devotees. He is neither swayed nor influenced by physical wants or sudden cravings as ‘He’ is completely in control of his mind and physical senses. He no longer lives for his ‘body’ or ‘mind’, as he has outgrown such ‘worldly hunger’. He has nothing left to gain for himself from this world of ‘moh maya’. Every precious moment of His existence is spent in meditating on the ‘Neeli chatriwaala’. All that a ‘Guru’ would truly like to see is the spiritual enlightenment and transformation of his disciples; an enrichment and purification of their minds and souls. A ‘Guru’s’ well-being resides in the spiritual well-being of his disciples. And, for that, he constantly shares his ‘gyaan’ ; his True knowledge with his disciples; directing them to realise the true purpose of their existence.”
” The disciples, on the other hand, nowhere close to spirituality, barely know what is good for them. Confusion in their minds while choosing between the much needed success in today’s world,or, sacrificing monetary gains to give time to ‘awakening’ of the soul, makes them look around for a ‘guru’, who can give them a new direction and suitable guidance. A few fortunate ones are blessed with the physical presence of a ‘guru’ and before long they start looking at Him as their ‘Saviour’!”
” Unfortunately a few of us look upon our ‘guru’ as a ‘wish fulfilling’ magician,
expecting all our dreams and wishes to be granted by Him. A ‘Guru’ does make us realise only those dreams that would benefit us in the long run,and, this too He does purely out of His divine love for us. Yet, He never asks us for anything in return. He only expects his disciples to tread the path of spiritual upliftment. He is not too vocal about this keen desire of His, too , but communicates it to us in the form of a silent appeal; leaving it to us to understand His subtle message. The ‘guru’ does not coerce us in any way ; but, leaves the final decision to us.’ ‘Guru’ ka kartavya hai ‘bhakton’ ko ‘gyaan’ dena…Apna ‘gyaan’ baatna ! Aagey woh ‘bhakt’ par nirbhar karta hai ki woh ‘guru-gyaan’ ke marg par chale, ya, kaan se baat ko nikaal de aur bhool jaye ! ‘Guru’ humse yeh ‘apeksha’ bhi nahi rakhte hain !’ Woh bas apne shishyon ka ‘prem’ chahte hain ! “